It has been said that if a woman has to ask for attention and affection, her man is not doing his job.
There is, however, often communication confusion between the sexes. Men are generally straightforward (which is not to say aggravatingly obtuse) and women are generally subtle and complex (which is not to say tortuously murky.)
The late Fr. Andrew Greeley often said in his novels that men must learn "that when a woman says no, it means no, unless it means yes or maybe."
What I hope you'll take away from this, men, is that it is worth the effort to try to read all the signals to see what your woman is really saying, and women, please try to be as direct as possible with us.
For example, if you feel inclined to a good spanking, but are disinclined to say aloud, "Honey would you please spank my little bottom until the glow can light up the hallway?" you can give us a visual clue. Maybe like this:
This girl is asking for it, with some degree of subtlety.
This girl is asking for it with a lot less subtlety:
And this woman is using no subtlety whatsoever.
And of course, sometimes your fella will tell you that it's time for a butt whapping.
The end result is that everyone will be happy with clear communication..